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5 REASONS WHY ELOPING IS BETTER THAN A WEDDING
With the challenges of planning a wedding well and truly sinking in, I would be lying if I said, I hadn’t already thought about eloping? Hasn’t every bride?
Even committing to a date has been a problem, with suppliers being booked up to two years in advance I am feeling the pressure to start throwing money around like confetti but as we all know too well, life has this way of chucking obstacles in the mix and who really knows where they will be even 1 month from now, a lot can change in two years damn it!
So here’s the thing I keep thinking to myself, wouldn’t it just be easier if we packed our bags headed somewhere cool, had an intimate ceremony and then spent the next two weeks having a holiday of a lifetime? Sure, a few people would get their feelings hurt but I like to think we have the most amazing family and friends that would support us no matter what we decide.
You probably think I am going a little crazy, how can I feel this way when I see hundreds of gorgeous weddings every day? To be honest I’m not quite sure and I am really hoping someone is going to tell me it is totally natural? In the meantime I usually find when dealing with big decisions, it helps to make a list of all the reasons you think the grass will be greener, so here are my reasons for thinking an elopement would be better than a wedding and please feel free to correct me if I’m wrong.
1. Some people don’t like being the centre of attention! Not me, I love it! But if truth be known, for Mr T, the thought of having to profess his undying love to me, in a room full of people, fills him with dread. In the lead up to the big day, I know he will be really worried about saying his vows and do I feel comfortable knowing that he will probably be dreading what should be one of the happiest days of his life because of that? Not really!
2. I hate the fact that this is one of my main reasons but MONEY! I find it really really hard to part with cash and spending all that money on one day quite frankly makes me feel a bit sick. Don’t get me wrong I know it’s totally worth it and if money was no object then a wedding would be a no brainer, but at this stage it’s more of case of shall we save for a wedding or for a house – being a grown up sucks sometimes!
3. You can’t beat a good quickie! Wedding that is! As I said before to book the vendors we want and save the money in order to be able to afford them, we are looking at, at least 18 months. I don’t know if anyone else felt like this but it seems to me that the period between getting engaged and getting married feels a bit like limbo, as though you can’t move on with your future until the wedding is out of the way and I kind of don’t like the way that feels? All I really want is to be married and if that means eloping so that it can be made official quicker and we can get on with our lives together, then is that such a bad thing?
4. Less Stress! I like to think I am quite a chilled out person, but compared to Mr T, I am a total stress head. Honestly if the wedding planning was left up to him, he would leave it all until a couple of weeks before (fine for Don’t Tell The Bride but not real life!), which means I will be in charge of most, if not all of the planning. Again if time were no object, I would probably be in my element but with running two businesses, I just can’t quite see where I will be able to find the time to do it all myself? With a neat little packaged elopement all we would really need to do is ‘be there’.
5. We can still have a party! It just won’t be immediately after our wedding. It really would be the best of both worlds! An intimate marriage ceremony just for us and a good ol’ knees up a few weeks later to celebrate with our family and friends.
So have I sold the elopement to you yet? Or to myself for that matter? Did you elope? Or perhaps your wish you had? I want to hear your thoughts?
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Hi Laura
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Emily
Hi there. I love the article, It came out great! I designed this boho wedding and it would be splendid if the link was working. Thank you so much. I sent an email, but perhaps it got lost. Thank you for featuring us.
Hi Kelly
I’m sorry we don’t seem to have received you email but that link should now be working for you!
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Emily x
Love the brides stylisation and light on the photographs. Such a simple but lovely session.
We have decided to elope – we did has a blessing to do so by my parents but now that i mentioned it again it hasnt really gone down well as if they completely changed their minds on the idea. We are still doing it regardless but its kind of put a damper on it. Im doing it for all same reasons above. Im so excited to do it and likewise cannot wait to be his wife. But just the daunting fact how to tell people, especially when party i have decided to host is in 4 month s after we are married. Any advice fom your experience on how to tell people? Is it rude just send and invited to our party? Or do we publicly announce? Please help! Im in such a panic about it.